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A Disco-Inspired Love Story

A Bellevue wedding, 27 years in the making

By Sarah Stackhouse April 18, 2025

Two men in tuxedos, with floral boutonnieres, sit closely on a stone bench amid floral decorations, appearing content and relaxed at an event.
Ernie Vigil and Randy Gantenbein
Photos by Matthew Land Studios

A chance meeting. A long love story. One unforgettable night.

Randy Gantenbein, who once managed Paul Allen’s properties and has spent decades in hospitality, and Ernie Vigil, a Navy veteran and longtime nurse, first met in a San Diego Starbucks on Easter Sunday. Randy was sipping coffee and flipping through his horoscope. “It said, ‘You’ll become romantically involved with a Scorpio.’ About 10 seconds later, Ernie walks up, put out his hand and said, ‘Hi, I’m Ernie.’ I joked, ‘I suppose you’re a Scorpio?’ And he said, ‘Yes, I am!’”

After nearly three decades as partners, the two decided it was finally time to tie the knot. “For a long time we didn’t do it because it was tax disadvantageous,” Randy says. “But as we got older, we started losing close friends and family and we decided we didn’t want any more time to pass without having everyone we loved together in one place.”

Two men in tuxedos with boutonnieres walk hand-in-hand down an aisle under a clear canopy decorated with flowers and greenery, celebrating their unique love story in this unforgettable moment.

Last October, 175 guests from 24 different states arrived at Bellevue’s El Gaucho, kicking off festivities beneath a glittering, chandelier-filled tent, where champagne flowed to the sound of a Spanish guitarist. Guests made their way inside, where the restaurant took on the feel of an old-world supper club, with intimate tables, pretty flowers, and soft amber lighting.

“We wanted this to be a celebration of love and of our friends and family, instead of a celebration of life after we’re gone.”

Elegant restaurant interior with white tablecloths, floral decorations, a large illuminated wall sign, and a well-stocked bar in the background. Evening lighting and subtle disco-inspired touches create a warm, inviting ambiance.

The ceremony was full of surprises. After mingling with drinks and appetizers, the room went completely dark, and Ernie appeared at the bottom of the grand staircase in a spotlight, serenading Randy with Chicago’s “Colour My World.” “Everybody knows Ernie sings, but nobody knew he was going to sing that night.”

A man in a suit stands on a staircase, holding a microphone and speaking, with a dark wood-paneled wall in the background, evoking a disco-inspired atmosphere.

Two men singing into a microphone at a lively event with colorful lights. One man wears a tuxedo with a boutonniere, the other has a loosened tie and suspenders. People and decorations in background.

Their close friend and former Vegas headliner Bernadette Bascom followed from the balcony with a performance of Jennifer Hudson’s “One Night Only.”

A woman in a red dress sings into a microphone on a flower-adorned balcony during an indoor event, creating a dazzling disco-inspired atmosphere.

Randy’s two longtime friends from college performed a piano duet of  “Somewhere Over the Rainbow,” honoring their shared Kansas roots. “Every part of the ceremony feels so true to us.”

A woman and a man sit side by side at a piano, playing and reading sheet music together in a dimly lit setting—a quiet moment that hints at a love story with subtle, disco-inspired charm.

A tribute video played on a giant screen, styled like an Academy Awards ‘In Memoriam.’ “We’ve lost a lot of close friends and family, and we wanted to honor them in a way that felt meaningful.”

After exchanging vows they wrote themselves, the couple shared their first dance to Garth Brooks’ “To Make You Feel My Love.”

Two men in suits dance together under a disco ball at a formal event, turning the moment into a true disco-inspired love story as guests watch from the background.

Dinner followed, paired with wines and accompanied by live piano music.

After dinner, the celebration moved to a gold, custom-made, circular dance floor. Randy once opened a major disco in Dallas in the ’70s, so planning a party like this came naturally. “Every year our friends ask, ‘When’s the disco party finally happening?’ Well, we did it!”

An overhead view of a formal event feels like a modern love story, with people dancing under purple disco lights near a bar decorated with flowers and a large illuminated sign.

“We spent six months creating the playlist for dancing.” Each table featured napkin rings with oversized faux-diamond rings, props for dancing to Beyoncé’s “Single Ladies.

A formal table setting with a white plate, two forks, a name card reading "Rocky Gonzalesian," and a folded black napkin with a napkin ring brings disco-inspired charm to the scene, complemented by a wine glass on a crisp white tablecloth.

A large group of people dressed formally gathers on a disco-inspired dance floor under a sparkling disco ball, raising their hands in celebration, with a bar and floral decorations in the background.

A large group of people dressed formally are dancing and celebrating together at an indoor party with festive lighting, decorations, and a disco-inspired vibe.

The ladies cleared the floor for the men to dance to “It’s Raining Men” — “a great way to break people into the dance floor.”

A group of well-dressed people socialize and converse at a crowded indoor event, with two men engaging animatedly in the foreground.

The finale involved giant cannons showering amber and white feathers over guests as Donna Summer’s “Last Dance” played. “Finding enough feathers wasn’t easy, but it was absolutely worth it.”

A group of people dressed formally celebrate under purple lights and a disco ball as feathers fall from above in a lively, disco-inspired indoor venue.

Orange and white feathers scattered across a dark green carpet evoke a disco-inspired scene, with a pair of black shoes visible at the top left corner.

Randy, with his hospitality experience, led most of the planning, while Ernie, a nurse, made sure everyone felt comfortable and cared for.

Two people in suits sit side by side; one lifts his pant leg to reveal "GROOM" socks, adding a playful, disco-inspired touch to their love story.

Four women smile and touch the back of a man’s suit jacket at an indoor event, surrounded by floral decorations and disco-inspired vibes.

The Honey Crumb cake was five-tiers and decorated with their monogram and edible gold scrollwork. It was filled with almond hot milk sponge, marzipan cream cheese, and apricot compote.

Two men in formal attire stand beside a multi-tiered white and gold cake; one man holds a wine glass, and both are smiling at the camera, celebrating their love story with disco-inspired flair.

Instead of gifts, Randy and Ernie requested donations to Mary’s Place, a charity they love. Guests could scan a QR code on the invitation to give. “We wanted this one night only — absolute positivity and sharing love with everyone we cherish.”

The entire celebration was beautifully captured on video by Mitch Mattraw.

Thanks for sharing your story with us, Randy and Ernie. We wish you a lifetime of love — and lots of singing and dancing.

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